Picture
this scenario: You're on a night out in your local haunt, enjoying yourself,
the usual. Then you spot this long legged, thick haired, modelesque girl across
the room. You watch her as struts confidently through the place and how
guys turn their heads to have a second look at her. She is wearing a bodycon
dress that would require you to be bet into the tightest pair of spanx to ever
have a hope looking as good as her in it, and as she laughs, flicks her hair
and doesn't even seem to wobble in her sky high shoes all you can think is:
Who hasn't done this? As much as I detest slut shaming and judging
people before I know them, I can't deny I've felt some distaste towards girls
who are more stylish, prettier and skinnier than me. Some will say it's in our
nature to initially dislike those who are more attractive than us. For example
if you saw that girl conversing with your significant other, the initial
reaction is to be angry and protective as in our minds it seems more likely
that this attractive girl would 'steal' your boyfriend quicker than a less
attractive, more demurely dressed girl would. It's strange though, what if the
less attractive girl had a fantastic sense of humour and brains to burn. What
if that is what would attract guys to her? In fairness, if you're with a guy
you would prefer to think that he isn't only with you for your looks or body,
but more so for you as a whole.
A study was carried out by McMaster University in Canada recently
where they put a group of women in a room and had an attractive, modestly
dressed woman interrupt their session. They studied the women’s reactions and
did the same to the other half of the group, but this time the woman had her
hair down and was wearing a mini skirt and boots. The difference in reactions
was immense, with the second group rolling their eyes and making comments about
her.
I know girls who have deliberately been cold towards other girls
whom they consider a threat. Then upon getting to know them and or finding out
that they already have a boyfriend, after a brief sigh of relief, they behave
in a much more friendly manner towards them. I know someone else who felt that
one acquaintance in particular was growing too close to the guy she was, as we
say in Galway, shifting. To eliminate the threat she made it her mission to
befriend this girl in order to ensure that her new BFF would never destroy
their friendship by getting with this guy. (Because people never do that...)
My point is the big cliché: Don't judge a book by its cover. Try
not to make assumptions about the girl in the crop top and tight pants who's
talking to a guy you fancy. It isn't easy but maybe the gorgeous girl with lads
falling all over her would be the greatest friend you'd ever make. That being
said, try not to begin a friendship with ulterior motives. It is a primal instinct
in both men and women to 'win the race' and find a partner to keep and reproduce
with. Don’t let that overcome you and allow you to spread shit about girls you
don't know but consider a threat. After all if anything ever did happen, it
says a lot more about your significant other than it does about the girl you're
hating on.
Goodnight Irene
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